Comparing Yourself to Others

It’s been around three months since I last blogged, and I wanted to share a little bit about why with you all today. 

When I first began blogging a little over a year ago, I was both excited and nervous to create this blog. I was eager to have a little corner of the internet where I could express my creativity. I have loved both writing and fashion since a young age, and beginning a blog seemed like the perfect way to explore these interests even more. But I was scared, too. That little voice inside my head kept whispering “you’re not good enough,” “you aren’t fashionable enough,” and “no one will want to read what you’re writing.”

I believe that everyone has these moments when they question whether they are able to pursue whatever they are passionate about. I tried to push past these fears and continue to blog, but found it hard to put myself out there and truly write what I was passionate about. I began to lose sight of what I wanted my blog to stand for, what I wanted to pursue and how I wanted to connect with others in the process. All of the successes of others began to bring me down and discourage me. I was comparing myself to others without being fair to myself.

It’s so easy to fall into the comparison trap and not even realize it. When I stopped blogging as often, friends and family would ask when I was going to post next. I would brush off these questions and just say that I was busy and wasn’t sure when I would next. As time went on though, I began to become more self-aware and realize the true reasons why I had stopped blogging. The truth is, no one who begins to blog becomes successful overnight. And I didn’t start my blog to become successful. I started it as a creative outlet and in the process got caught up comparing myself with others who had been blogging for years. 

Don’t worry about what other people think. I kept thinking that I had to be just like other bloggers and only talk about fashion. But that’s not true! I lost sight of my voice & what I want my blog to be in the process.

Have you ever struggled to stop comparing yourself to others?

xx,

EA

4 Comments

  1. June 15, 2017 / 3:40 pm

    Definitely a struggle of all bloggers. Since we’re always checking out each other’s blogs and instagrams, it’s hard not to see their success and wish you were doing the same.
    Kate || KATE KOUTURES

  2. June 16, 2017 / 8:43 am

    This is such a great post. I feel like comparison was the main roadblock in the way of me taking my blog a little bit more seriously. Your photos and content are awesome – never second guess yourself!

    Happy to know I’m not alone in feeling this way 🙂

    xx, Adrienne
    A Dash of Class

  3. June 17, 2017 / 3:47 pm

    Loved reading this!! I just recently discovered your blog, and love it! I am in the process of starting my own and have been very nervous and question whether I’ll be good enough!

  4. Anita Kline
    June 18, 2017 / 11:19 am

    Hi Emma,
    What a wonderful blog post! In my experience and what I’ve learned from teachers of mindfulness is that “comparing mind” is universal, something that the human mind simply does. It can be useful, but more often causes a lot of suffering. . .leads to thoughts of being “better than” or “not as good as” others, two sides of the same coin that both stand in the way of a mind that is relaxed, accepting, loving, creative, and happy!

    It’s something to work with, not something to “overcome” or get rid of. It’s something to “practice” with: pausing to hear the mind make these disparaging comparisons (so convincing. . .as if it knows what its talking about!) and remember what’s true. Just as you’ve done here in this blog, where you reveal the true you, the strong young woman who set out to speak from the heart about her passions, what moves her.

    It takes courage to make yourself vulnerable like that, especially in the wider world and in a public forum. I think you’ll find that the more you do this, the more people will respond in kind. Your readers will look to your blog as a space to be inspired to know and express who they are, as individuals, but perhaps even more significantly as members of a creative community.

    I was already well into my adult years before I learned what I’ve written here. And of course, when I say “learned”, I don’t mean that the learning is behind me. In fact, old age has only presented me with new people to compare myself to! 🙂 I’m just saying that you are already doing this work of the mind and heart, and that makes me happy, proud of you and encouraged for the world that you are creating with your life!

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